My experience has been that the penultimate incarnation before we truly connect with our twin soul is possibly the hardest to bear, simply because at least one of us recognises the other as our twin soul and we are so close to reuniting, yet both halves still have so much more karma to clear.

Is it their fault or is it ours?

It’s nobody’s fault, but we have to ask ourselves, why are we waiting in that “waiting room” for someone who is giving us so little in return. Is our self-worth that low? Why is that?

The penultimate lap of the twin soul incarnation often means that our twin soul may have other fish to fry, other men/women to marry or have relationships with, and we are stuck in time, waiting for their return. Now that return could take a day, a week, a month, a year, many years and possibly not until the next incarnation. But the journey of the twin souls means that we will connect with them one day.

So people often agonise whether to stay in that “waiting room” or vacate it for other souls to use and ponder. After all it’s an emotionally expensive place to linger.

My experience and answer has always been, don’t wait. You need to get on with your own life and make yourself the best possible example you can be of yourself. Ask yourself also, why, when you are giving 150% emotionally, your other half is giving 0%. When they do come back for a fleeting visit, we are on top of the world and yet they give so little back.

The most commonest coupling is the “cling-on” twin soul with the “commitment phobic” other half. That cling-on soul often truly believes that their other half is pondering their relationship for years on end. That may be true in some situations, but chances are they’re not dealing with it at all and are simply moving on to other relationships and pushing this one away, because it is too scary for them to deal with, and then making the same mistakes over and over again.

So how do you exit that “waiting room” and not feel guilty, because people often do feel guilty. Knowing that the electrical current that passes between us and our twin soul is ever present, we need to use techniques that block or at least allow that energy to be more manageable. I always tell my clients to imagine a thin piece of glass between you and your other half, so that the more acute traumatic emotions you are experiencing due to the separation are pushed further away and cannot hurt you.

If you were to reunite, would it necessarily be in a love relationship? Knowing that most twin souls meet when one or other is already committed to another relationship, means that there are challenges ahead. A true twin soul will never pull us out of an existing relationship, because that causes more negative karma. If they are a true twin flame, they would simply wait for the natural order of things.

And when you do reunite is it necessarily a marriage? Maybe, maybe not. But you can be the best of friends working together, understanding each other and having the deepest respect for each other’s ways. To try and change your twin soul into anything else means you are not ready to connect.

Further, with twin flame and soul mate connections, it’s not just about or even the relationship (if such a relationship exists), it’s about what happens as a result of that connection, how it moves you along your psychic path and/or changes your life.

So once we are out of the “waiting room”, we are back in control of our own lives, and if our twin soul does come back again, we are able to be strong enough to tell them how we feel and what we want. They may go away again, because they don’t like the terms. Then so be it. But coming out of the “waiting room” is ultimately quite a heady experience. It means that we are already working on ourselves to becoming emotionally stronger and putting ourselves back in charge of our own destiny.